It's A War Outside

It's a war outside of me

Yet I feel like I'm fighting a war within 

Set me free but freedom ain't free

Black is beautiful yet we had to relearn our purpose 

Beneath the surface of pain and resilience 

We had to fight for basic human rights 

Humanity for the human race 

It's really a fucking disgrace

For us to have to debate for dignity to exist in a place that was never built for us but built on the backs of our ancestors 

I promise they ain't please 

Yet I beg you please 

Release this war within me

There's a war outside 

The fear of my own silence is loud 

Louder than the way my soul has cried 

You have to die everyday just to feel alive 

Divine Spirit and my ancestors souls cry 

I am high yet I feel so low 

They go lower and we go higher 

Some of us are oblivious to the calling 

Oppressed in a nation with no real calling 

What a disgrace to live in a nation with no grace 

Distasteful and derogatory tactics 

Hateful antics 

Policies with no means to end this war outside 

I'm deeply impacted my throat Chakra is active yet inactive 

I have enough energy to disburse the words from my heart to my brain so eloquently 

Grateful for my Creativity

The Creator created me just like he created the enemy 

Yet they still don't see me pass the first layer of my skin 

It's like being black is a sin

Being powerful and overcoming the very thing sent to destroy us 

Gave birth to the versions of us who are enraged with a mouthful of  "What the fucks?" 

Knowing that they never gave a fuck about our Humanity as black people 

Such is a time like this when "They" realize their lives don't mean shit in the new land of Trumps Dictatorship 

When they have been killing us for free for fun for nothing less then because they knew they could get away with it

Now all lives matter when Black people's lives never did

Yet I'm still fighting a war outside for crimes of dehumanization I didn't commit

How do you quit a job you never signed up for?

End a war that was never yours 

There's a war outside all of our doors 

I am sitting somewhere between conviction and depiction 

Scream and pray 

Burn it all to hell while pouring from an empty well to continue to love, be light and pour life into the lives I created 

How do I continue to fight a battle that started before I was born?

From decades of ancestors who had to endure hatred for way to long

There is no more songs or variations to sing we are strong 

My soul feels weary 

Every time I hear, see or read the news 

The I.C.E is deforsted on top of the inhumane evil ass mountain 

I am numb to the history I was taught about our people 

Defeated by the war outside 

Tears in my eyes cuz sometimes my tears are tired 

My emotions exploded and I'm back in a war within myself 

When the war was never minds 

It's a war outside 

From Then to Now: A Return to Becoming

The last time I wrote here was 2017.

That feels like a lifetime ago.

Back then, I was navigating life from a very different place—one rooted more in survival than softness, more in doing than becoming. I was showing up the best way I knew how at the time, even when I didn’t yet have the language for what I was feeling or the courage to fully honor my inner voice.

Since then, life has happened.

Not in neat chapters.

Not in ways I could have planned or predicted.

Just… life.

There were seasons that stretched me, seasons that humbled me, and seasons that required me to sit still when all I wanted to do was push forward. I learned what it meant to lose parts of myself—and what it takes to gently, intentionally call them back home.

In the years between then and now, I’ve learned that growth isn’t always loud. Healing doesn’t always announce itself. And faith doesn’t mean certainty—it means trust, even when clarity hasn’t arrived yet.

I’ve unlearned a lot.

I’ve unlearned the need to explain myself.

I’ve unlearned the belief that rest is something you earn.

I’ve unlearned the habit of dimming my light to keep others comfortable.

And I’m still unlearning.

What I know now is this: becoming is not a destination. It’s a daily decision.

A decision to choose alignment over approval.

To choose softness without guilt.

To choose authenticity, even when it costs you familiarity.

Faith has looked different in this season, too. Less about perfection. More about surrender. Less about having all the answers. More about trusting that God meets me exactly where I am—unfinished, evolving, human.

I didn’t stop writing because I had nothing to say.

I stopped because I was listening.

Listening to what my soul needed.

Listening to what no longer fit.

Listening to who I was becoming beneath the noise.

Now, I’m returning to this space not as the woman I was in 2017—but as the woman shaped by everything that followed. Wiser. Softer. More grounded. Still becoming.

This blog is no longer about performance or polish.

It’s about presence.

It’s about truth.

It’s about faith, authenticity, and becoming—over and over again.

If you’re reading this and you’re in a season of transition, reflection, or quiet rebuilding, know this: you don’t have to have it all figured out to begin again.

Neither did I.

I’m here now.

And this is just the beginning—again.

With grace,

Hadiyah Adrianne

Being Thankful

I am just Thankful!!

Lately, I have found myself being more and more thankful for the little things and the big things. It's so much going on in the world and it's so many distractions from the things that are truly important in our lives. We sometimes get caught up in the things that are not going right that we take away from the things that Are!! Take time to reflect on how far you have come in life. Look back on those times that you didn't have what you wanted or what you needed. Now, you have both. Remember the things that you prayed for more than often and now you have them. And if if you do not have them, maybe you are not ready to receive them. God already has worked things out for us but we sometimes worry ourselves when things don't happen when we think they should. Just know God's timing is perfect. Be thankful for all that you have experienced. All that you learned over the years in your life. Never stop being Thankful. God didn't have to do it but He did. I try to spend less time complaining and more time being Thankful. Is it hard? Yes! I didn't say it was easy. We have to train our minds and our thoughts to always be positive and not to just think about ourselves. It will always be someone in the world who has it much much worst than we think we do. Try thinking of that when you feel like you're  about to complain. I try to spend some of my time in silence and reflecting. Constantly reminding myself how far I have come and how much further I have to go. I am not perfect, I promise you I am human and I make mistakes. However, I do my best to learn from them. I surround myself with ppl who are on a journey to be the best version of themselves. We all want to be great and live in our fullest potential. Just remember to be thankful. We always pray to God, asking for something. Let's pray to God and just say "thank you". Thank you for blessings me even when I felt I didn't deserve it. Thank you for helping me push through when I felt like giving up. Thank you for making me smile when I wanted to cry. Thank you for surrounding me with love and favor. Thank you for allowing me to breath and to be healthy. Just Thank You! Live everyday being Thankful for the little and the big blessings in your life. Being Thankful can take you to a deeper spiritual place in the deptb of your soul.

Be blessed! Be Inspired! Be Encouraged! Be Thankful!

-Sending love and light to you all ❤

Approaching 30...What is my purpose/passion in life?

My 30th birthday is less than a month a way. Lately I have found myself doing a lot of reflecting and evaluating my life overall. I have thought about the past and what I have experienced. The present and the future. I have been blessed beyond my measures. I am grateful, thoughtful and appreciative for all God has done and is doing in my life. However, one thing that has been on my mind more than anything is "what my purpose/passion in life is?" There are many things that I can be great at yet, I am just unsure of what my purpose is. I am happy overall with my life however, I feel like knowing my purpose would be the cherry on top. I have career goals that i am interested in such as Pharamacy Technician and Physical Therapy but they are not my passion and I don't feel like they are my purpose. As I head into the next chapter in  life I want to become more disciplined in my actions and more focused and determined on my goals. I want to find my passion and purpose in life. I want to wake-up everyday knowing that I am living not only  as a mother, a daughter, sister, cousin, friend, auntie ect. But that I know my purpose and passion in life. It's so important to me to find out what it is. I know my 30's will be filled with more love, more happiness, more loving friends and family, more memories and more blessings. I want to enter this age pure as possible in my mind body and spirit. I want to fully connect with the truest depth of myself and emerge fully in my purpose. I am welcoming my 30's with open arms and trusting that God will help reveal what my purpose and passion are in this life. 30 is a new beginning and a new chapter of growth.

Late Night Thoughts Turned Into A Prayer

     As I lay here in my bed holding my 10 month old daughter with my life partner snoring...I begin to pray. I pray for myself, my children, my life partner, my family and closes friends, my partners family. I realize that I am much more spiritual then I give myself credit for. As I have gotten older in age, I find myself praying more. I still worry a bit, I'm human lol.  However, prayer has become something that I do more than often. I have always had a relationship with God. I remember being afraid to talk to God at a point in my life.I feared He did not hear me and I was unsure what to pray for. As I begin to experience life on numerous level that fear become less of fear and more of faith. God is real. God is "The Most High". God is...just God. I have never been so sure about the presence of God in my life as much as I do now. I find myself being much more thankful and grateful about the big and small things in life. Life is not promised. You have to do your absolute best to enjoy every aspect of your life. Even though I continue to struggle with my own insecurities, I pray that I find my truest, most honest and pure purpose before I leave this earth. I am forever growing and learning the truest parts of me, good and bad. I am discovering things about myself that I  was never  able to understand until now. I not only want to make myself proud but most importantly, I want to make God proud. I want to do what God sent me here to do. I want my relationship with God to continue to grow and mature. I want prayer to become more and more of a daily behavior. God did not have to show me that He was real but He did. For that, a I am beyond thankful and eternally grateful. I owe it all to God. If there was ever a doubt that God is real, I am living proof that God will show up, show out and reveal a lot of things to you. Even when you don't feel like you are worthy enough, God will show you otherwise. You just have to believe and have faith. I say all this to say...that God is working on me. He is doing some serious work and I am open to all the trials and blessings that are forthcoming. God bless you and goodnight!

Love You before loving someone Else

I recently went to a Kindred The Family Soul concert. During the concert Aja (the wife) starting talking to the audience about loving yourself "First"  before you try to love someone else. Aja also stated that marriage isn't easy. It requires all of you and your time. She said that her marriage is 24hrs/365 days of the year kind of work. It's far from perfect but it's working for her and Fatin (the husband ). She continued to say that she is grateful to be an inspiration to others however, what works for her marriage may not work for others. This is why I love Kindred the Family Soul. They are honest people. They are so humble. That message she gave was exactly what I needed to hear.  Sometimes you can spend so much time trying to love somebody else that you forget about loving yourself. If you are not happy with being alone and just loving yourself, how can you love and make someone else happy?? As a women we want the ideal relationship with the man of our dreams but reality is, that ideal man doesn't really exist. No man is perfect and no women is perfect. You just have to find someone who is worth the experience, growth, ups and downs ect. There is someone for everyone.

What Love Means To Me...

What love means to me...
When I picture my life with my soul mate/life partner I see a handsome man. I see a nice house, car, a few children. I see us both in our careers and we are very happy. However, there is a flip side to that. I do not necessarily have to be with a man because that's what society potrays.I am very open about my sexuality. Does that make me a lesbian?? No, it makes me aware of my likes and dislikes. I am a strong believer of "Never Say Never". You cannot help who and what you are attracted to. We all have an energy that connects one person to another for whatever reason. Sometimes it's worth exploring and sometimes it's not. In the end be with whom ever makes you happy. It's not always about the gender of the person, race, color,  social class status, financial status ect. It should be solely based on your connection with that person. It's also about how happy you are to be in the presences of the one you admire, adore & love. I never veiw love as beneficial. I always veiw it as free, honest, friendly, and forever growing. Love has no color or any of those things I mentioned. Though it is an action word. Love has always been free. Give love because you have it to give. Not because you want to benefit from what you have given. I love hard & I love very deeply. I have a free spirit. I am unlike any other human being. I am me. I see things in others that they may not see in themselves. I sense others needs just by looking in there face. However, as I have experienced failed relationships & friendship, I am aware of all that I could have done differently. I am aware that some people are just solely meant for you to experience, grow from and move on. As I get older, I become less unapologetic about who I am and who I am going to be. Love has always been the filter in my life. I love me, but not as much as I love to love others. My love comes from giving to others. Sometimes I give too much and I surely have a hard time receiving love. I have much more to learn and a lot more to experience so that I can continue to grow. I am love and love is me. What does love mean to you??

Forgive When Your Ready...

Forgiving those who hurt you so deep is hard. However, until you forgive you will continue to hold on to that past experience and hurt. Sometimes we become use to the hurt that we are afraid to forgive. We are afraid of what forgiveness will feel like. Forgiveness is not for the one who hurt you it's for YOU!!. You release all that you have experienced and felt from being hurt. You will be free from all hurt and your heart will feel so much lighter. Forgiveness free's you and makes more room for you to receive love and regain happiness. It is hard to forgive and it won't happen overnight. Therefore, when you are ready to forgive, be ready to leave all past experiences and hurt behind for good. I think I am approaching the realm of forgiveness. Not quite there but I am headed in that direction. Always forgive those who hurt you so you can move forward in life. Today is a perfect day to start. Stay blessed. Forgive when your ready!!

Something for Nothing

Some men want something for nothing. They expect so much when they're offering so little. What happen to a man perusing a woman?? I really don't want to believe that chivalry is dead. I want to be courted. Is that too much to ask?? Well, it sure as hell seems like it. Don't text me at 12am asking me do I want to chill. Because the answer is no (more like HELL NO). You have not offered to take me out nor have you followed through with the offer that you made previously. Be honest, you don't really want to chill at that time of morning. The dating scence is very dry and boring. Some men have no interest in dating. They're just looking for the next "thing" to test drive. I am not interested in being just another number in your phone. I am trying to become someone's wife. I don't have time to guess what you mean or to figure out what you tryna say. Just be clear, be honest. Let a sista know if you just trying to get something for nothing. I have no more time to waste. I have wasted enough. I know what I want and what I can handle. Dealing with BS is not in my credentials. I don't owe you anything and vice versa. I need a grown man,not a grown boy. 

Sincerely,
A grown ass woman :)

I Forgive Me...

I forgive myself for loving you when I should've been loving me
Who knew this love would hurt me so deep
So consumed with being the best women I could be
When all along you weren't deserving of me
I forgive me for staying when I should've let
Baby you were like rehab
I needed some help
All I wanted was to be understood
For you to love me like no other man could
I realize that you didn't appreciate what I had to offer
Yet you kept reaching for my offerings
I forgive me for accepting way less than what I deserve
You were like a disease with no cure
I became my own bad habit
I got caught in the mist of my own traffic
I was ready to reek havick
But then I had to forgive me
I loved you endlessly and repeatedly When baby you weren't loving me
You chose your friends numerous time
I spent a lot of alone time
I wanted to be happy as your wife
Too many broken promises
No consistency in your actions
I was stuck in a real life fatal attraction
It didn't need a caption
Looking in the mirror with eye's full of tears
Saying damn...how could I let this happen
I wish you would have wiped my tears
All along you had disappeared
I was left to figure some shit out
Without a doubt this ship had begin to set sail
Then I been to forgive me for experiencing such misery
The pain started to disappear as I had to face my own fears
A women like me shouldn't be sleeping alone

Happily Single!!

It's been along time coming. I have stayed and went back & forth in a relationship with someone who was unaware of my value. I am worth more than what I was allowing myself to experience. However, I was given this test repeatedly until I passed. I finally got tired. Only you know when it's time to move on and you don't look back. I am fully aware of my role that I played. I take full responsibility for all the pain I endured. If I blame the other person, how does that help me heal?? The thing is, it doesn't. I am in the process of healing because I understand why I stayed when I should have left. I understand why I continued to give when he still did not appreciate what I was offering. Through all the hurt there was a lesson for me to learn. I have wounds, but those wounds will heal and become scars. Those scars will be proof that I am a fighter and I have learned from this lesson and passed the test. I still love him. However, I love me more. So now I am choosing to love him from a distance. You can be an amazing women all day but if that  man isn't ready for the kind of women that you are, then you're wasting your time. I am choosing my happiness over  trying to make someone else happy. You will drain yourself emotionally trying to be everything to someone who is not deserving of what you have to offer. I love extremely hard and most women do. We just have to know how to decipher when and who to love hard. Every man is not worthy of your love or your time. I look back and reflect but I look forward with no regrets. I am truly "Happily Single". I am choosing Me. I will focus on becoming a "Better Me". No one will love you, more than You. Sincerely,
Loving Me :-)

When is enough...Enough??

Hurt people hurt people. So if your hurting within,  then you'll hurt me. If I love you and I don't hurt you, then why would you hurt me?? Why do we continuously love those who hurt us?? Why do we hurt the ones who love us?? When will loving ourselves be enough?? When will letting go of the hurt we have endored be easier to do then just saying it?? In life we are going to experience all kinds of things. The one that seems to be constant is being hurt by someone we love or loving some one who is hurting us. I know that we don't enjoy this pain. Are we  simply putting that much trust and faith in someone's words instead of there actions?? Do we honestly beleive that this hurt will magically end and this person won't hurt us again. Or does our love for someone gives us a reason to feel that this hurt is worth experiencing?? I say this to say, why are we so subsustible to pain from the one's we love?? No one deserves to be hurt on purpose, repeatedly. Yes, we all make mistakes but when you have hurt someone numerous times in the same way, your doing it on purpose, and saying I am sorry is just not good enough.

Newly Single...Not Sure if I am ready to Date

I'm newly single and I am embracing it quite well. However, I kinda have a wall up. I do not want to allow myself to be hurt again. It's only been a week and I kinda already miss the good things about being in a relationship. I miss being wanted and missed by him. I miss cooking for him, back rubs and cuddling. Date nights and random surprises. I want to date but I am not sure if I am ready for it just yet. I must say I am much happier single. No worrying about where he is, no broken promises, no argument about the same shit lol. No feelings of being unappreciated. I wake up excited about life and not being stressed. I am loving being single. I have more time for myself. I have time to do the things I love to do. I just get to solely focus on Me and that's an amazing feeling. As far as dating, I will take baby steps. If it happens cool if not cool. I am staying completely optimistic and positive about it. Single and loving it :)

Growing Up Without a Daddy: How It Affects Your Relationships With Men

I didn't grow up with my biological father in my life. I had male figures here and there but none of them were constant and my relationships with them were not so great. So as I got older and I begin to have relationships with  men, I did not have a clear understanding/example of what it was like to be treated by a man. I had watched movies and dreamed of fairy tales of what it was like to be loved and or treated by a man but I had never experienced it first hand. As I grew more, I entered into a world where there were many different men of all ages, cultures, religions ect. I was curious as to what It was like to be with a man. 

I was looking for a man to feel safe and secure with. A protector, a provider, a shoulder to lean on, cry on, to make me happy. To support me, guide me, console me. I was looking for too much in a man that I didn't even know. I had a misconception of what a "Real" man was. I had an idea of what he was suppose to do and how he was suppose to treat me but I had no idea as to what to expect or look for. As I sit here typing this...I am having a recap of all of my pass intimate relationships with men have been like. In each relationship I was essentially looking for my "Daddy" in all of these men. I was allowing myself to be hurt in various ways because I had a pre -misconception of what a real man was. 

As my relationship of 3 1/2 yrs. has come to an end. I have realized that in a relationship with a man... a real man you should not have to beg for time. You shouldn't have to ask for him to take you out. You should never feel unappreciated. You should be treated like a queen. You should come before his friends. Sex and money should not be a patch for all broken promises. He should be a man of his word. His actions should speak louder than anything else. Growing up without your biological father as a women, has a tremendous impact on your interactions and relationships with all men. 

When you don't have a clear understanding or example of what its like to be treated by a man you become vulnerable to accepting anything your given for a small piece of what you need .You struggle with what you deserve. You don't understand your worth and how precious your spirit and body are. Your looking for love in all the wrong places. You allow yourself to be hurt numerous times. You yearn for a man's acceptance, flaws and all. You look for his approval first instead of your own. You love him deeply instead of loving yourself first. You give him all you have to offer and forget to save some for yourself.  Encourage him to become a better man. Hoping he will change and become the man you have dreamed of. 

When in reality you should seek some of these qualities in yourself so you can attract a man of such character. However, once you have an understanding of what has caused you to experience situations like this multiple times in various relationship, its time to change. Its time to become a better you. Its time to value, love, understand your worth and recognize what you deserve. It's not easy ladies but it must be done. Be self-approved and stop looking for approval in every man you meet. And every man you meet can never replace your father nor repair the damage of you being a product of a fatherless child. 

Love Ya:)

Kindred The Family Soul...They Have Inspired Me!!

I heard of them a few years back and I have always loved their music. I rediscovered them and fell in love with them all over again. They are such an inspiration to love..black love!! They are also and inspiration to real marriages that are alive and growing. Just watching them perform and interact with each other just shows me that I still have hope. Hope in love and peace. Not saying that I don't have love and peace now, but that I will have love and peace in a partner in life. And if I never get married their marriage will continue to inspire me in others ways. They are such a powerful couple. The love they share can only be something God created between them. Today, marriage is not perceived how it was years ago. Now days people don't stay married very long. I know I still have much more life to live and marriage is probably the last thing that should be on my mind considering my age, however I have an old soul. I embrace my old soul or shall I say my wise soul. Any hew, enough about me lol. Back to Kindred The Family Soul. I can feel their chemistry when they perform.There are an ordinary couple with and extraordinary kind of love. Go support them. They have various albums.Kindred The family Soul performing xoxo

Marriage....Will I ever get Married??

What do men want?? I know I want to get married. I'm 26yrs old but I know what I want. I just feel like I may never get married. I have so many things to offer to a man. So many things to share. I want a life partner to grow with spiritually. To connect with mentally and physically. I just don't want to leave this earth never being able to experience being married. There are a few things that I would like to accomplish before I get married. However, If I got married I would still accomplish my goals. I think my biological clock is ticking and I want to be married and add more to my family. 3 more children would be lovely. Patience also plays a big part in wanting to be married. God has a man for me. I just need to be patience and have faith. I don't want to rush being married because I only want  to be married once. Marriage requires a lot from both parties involved. I believe I have what it takes and I believe God will send me someone who feels the same as I do. Patience is a virtue...marriage is truly important to me. I will continue to practice patience and let God send him to me. Ok, I'm done lol Just had to get that out my system. AHHH!! I feel better!!

Just A Memory

You use to be more than a memory.

Now your like an enemy.

By all means I'm in need of a remedy

To release this chemistry that use to be between you & me. Your just an old sad memory. Like an old habit I'm trying to break...

You make a sista want to date outside her race.

I'm desperately in a rush to replace your face.

I feel like super women without a cape...

Looking for away to escape

Your face is no longer the place where I get lost in your eyes. You hid your lies between my thighs every time I asked why?? Why do you love me?? Why do you make me cry??

The answers are so clear. You were in love with the idea of me.

You & I were never truly meant to be.

Now your just a memory... hunting me.

I just want to set this broken heart free...

To much pain still remains in the sheets were we once laid

Your love was like a liquor bottle with no cap

You poured a cup full of bullshit over two frozen ice cubes

I sat an drank my shit straight

Needed something strong to numb this pain

You are just an old memory...

who needs to be erased

I know someday all this hurt will be replace with my true loves face

In My Feelings...

I just been thinking lately and I realize that men are just as confusing as they claim women are. Granted there are a few women out there who are unsure of themselves and they have no clue what they want as far as men or anything else is concerned. However, I'm speaking for the women who do know what they want and who are more than fed up with these confused ass so called grown men. Like wtf(what the f***)?? I'm angry. I can not put all the blame on the fellas though. Ladies, ladies, ladies we have got to stop entertaining these men who have no clue about wtf they want just so we can get a portion of what we want. It's not fun and we should not settle just to say we got a damn man. Where the real men at?? It's true what they say girls do mature faster than boys. Maturity is not just based on age, it has to do a lot with your mind set. You can be 50 and still be immature. 

My King is still out there, and I just want him to know that his Queen is still waiting.

Letting Go & Moving On...

When you have been with someone for a long time and have shared numerous things its hard to just let go and move on. When you have invested so much of yourself into a person its hard to just let go and move on. Letting go and moving on is not impossible but it will surely take some time. You can never get your time or love back, nor can you erase the memories that have been made & shared between you and that person. But what you can do is let go and move on to something or someone much better. 


Being single again teaches you all the things you forgot about yourself when you where in a relationship. It reminds you how important you are. You fall back in love with yourself. It builds you back up again. You are almost reborn again. Your soul is a lot more stronger. You feel more sexy, confidence, and much more secure. Your a new women with a new attitude. The only thing that is holding you back from you is "You". Letting go is hard to do when some of you is still holding on to that person. Moving on is easy when you know it must be done and when your not afraid for new things to come.


Letting go means letting go of all the hurt, pain, anger & memories. Moving on means embracing the  new beginning ahead and not looking back. Being newly single is very empowering and liberating. It helps you to focus on you and to re-evaluate what you want and what you won't allow. What your ready for and what you want to explore. It allows you to be free...and not make any decisions until you are for sure. Everything is done on your time. You are back in control of "You". 

Some Questions I Need Answered...

Why do women love so hard?? Why do we allow ourselves to be hurt by a man we know we can do without?? Why does growing up with out a father leave us so emotional scared and looking for that love we never experienced in our companion?? Why do we stay with a man when he isn't giving us what we deserve and acknowledging our worth, value and time just because we love him?? So many questions and very few answers. It's hard realizing what you want when your so stuck on what you need for the moment!! I'm just in the process of moving on from a relationship that was full of more pain than happiness and more bad memories than good ones. At some point ladies, we have to take responsibility for the hurt we feel because we see the signs but we are so determine to change a man than to just leave him alone and go with the man who is exactly what we need. Love is a beautiful, but even more beautiful when it's with the right person. Every hurt ache or heart break is a lesson. I don't ever want to experience another one.